I knew from the moment that I found out that I was pregnant again (Savannah was 8 months old at the time) that it would be hard sometimes. My pregnancy was not planned but it goes without saying that I am so glad it happened! Just FYI, if you are on antibiotics for a kidney infection and take birth control pills you probably want to use a back up birth control method. ;)
I was worried at first how I would divide my time between a newborn and a 16 month old. It has somehow worked. I literally feel like I just had the baby but (hello!) he is 7.5 months old now and my 16 month old is now 2. Whoa time, slow down!! Have I had hard days where I just wanted to lock myself in the bathroom and hide? Oh yeah. Have I lost my temper and gotten snappy and impatient? You betcha. Have I downed an entire bottle of wine after laying them down at night? Yep.
That being said, I have also had amazing days. Days where S walks up to the baby and kisses him on his little head. It absolutely melts my heart. The other day D was sitting in his bumbo and started crying hysterically. I was up to my elbows (literally) in soapy dishes and was rinsing off my sudsy hands so I could console him. He quieted all of sudden and when I looked over my shoulder S was rubbing his head and talking sweet toddler gibberish to him. I about passed out from the sweetness.
You do figure out what works for your family and you become flexible. Somehow it just falls in place. I know it sounds cliche, but it really does. I could not imagine my life without my babies in it and would not want it any other way.